There are many dull, boring, somewhat uncomfortable to think about, yet practical and important things I know Mr Trifectagirl and I should have put in place. Or discussed. A long time ago. Just in case something that 'won't happen to me' actually 'does happen to me'.
Like it did.
Things like having Power of Attorney in place so money issues can be dealt with. Even though I'm his wife, I can't access his bank account nor change the bank account that social security payments go into. I can't access that money at all - or stop some automatic payments that will slowly deplete his account. Not that it's much, but being able to manage these things would be helpful.
Writting and/or updating our wills AND knowing where they are kept.
Knowing our wishes when it comes to organ donation and funerals. I have no idea what I want for my funeral, let alone what Mr Trifectagirl wants.
As J is an IVF child and we have additional embryos in storage, making sure posthumous use has been dealt with, or permissions to use in case of being declared not competent to make a decision.