Mother-In-Law is wheelchair bound and relies on access cabs for transportation. This means that Christmas has to be organised way,way in advance so we actually get a cab booking for reasonable times. So I've already been turning my thoughts to our first Christmas without Mr Trifectagirl.
Christmas time will be around the 6 month mark since Mr Trifectagirl passed, so I'm expecting it to be doubly rough - first Christmas and six months in one hit.
Fortunately we did a few things last year as a family that I have photographs of. The Zoo's member family BBQ, Elf on the Shelf (which Mr Trifectagirl hated), going to the Brewery Garden light display, Christmas Eve and Christmas morning services. I can keep these as family traditions for J, along with my baking traditions. I can also talk to Mother in Law and see if there were any traditions from Mr Trifectagirl's childhood I could add back in.
I'm thinking of going to the lights on the 14th, being the date of the month we lost Mr Trifectagirl.
The day itself, I have no idea on what will happen apart from going to Christmas morning service. Hopefully Sister and her baby (who will be 2-3 months old, depending on when it decides to arrive) will decide to come too.
Gift wise, I'm glad I found the 'something you want, something you need, something to wear and something to read' guideline - I could be spending so much money on J if I don't keep to this. I will add something from Santa and something to make/do which can be used to while away the post-Christmas lunch slump in the afternoon. While we play that age-old sport - watching to see if Grandpa falls off his chair when he falls asleep.
And I can't forget the really bad Christmas Tree costume Mr Trifectagirl bought for J in the sales last year. It should be delightful!